Plato once said, "You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation." A relationship starts off on better ground when it's not just words and promises. When you have mutual interests, it can be easier to coexist and get to know one another. However, girls remain a mystery to boys. What do they want? What do you do? Why is it so complicated?
Well, if you're looking for a like-minded girl to share your time with, you may want to consider an otaku girl! You'll have some common ground if you both enjoy anime, but that doesn't mean it'll be an easy road ahead of you. Otaku girls can be just as confusing as any other girl. The fundamentals don't change just because she's an otaku; she's just someone who likes similar things to what you like! Relationships don't have to be as complicated as they seem, though.
Here are 5 ways to date an otaku girl to make your life a little easier.
1. Share Interests
First off, just because you're dating an otaku doesn't mean you'll actually like all the same things. Do you think she'll like all the action, gore, and ecchi anime you'll watch? Maybe she will or maybe she won't. Of course, that's not to say that you only like these genres or an otaku girl won't enjoy some anime in these genres. Everyone's different.
When you both have the same hobbies, you'll want to share all of your recommendations and opinions. You don't have to watch every anime your otaku girlfriend recommends, but you shouldn't expect her to do the same. Share your interests. Respect each other's interests. Just don't force them on each other.
Take Kousaka Kirino from OreImo for example. She likes little sister games and anime. While she does ask that Kyousuke try the games (and finish in a timely manner), Kirino doesn't give Kyousuke every game or series she's seen.
You can enjoy doing things like live action roleplaying, cosplaying, or just playing video games together. These are just things you can do casually without any pressure yet still enjoy your hobbies together. Don't overcomplicate it.
Oreimo (Ore no Imouto ga Konnani Kawaii Wake ga Nai)
2. Be Sweet
Being an otaku can have its difficulties for many different reasons, so remember to be sweet!
If your otaku girlfriend sees something that she's had her eye on but cannot afford, it can't hurt to buy it for her once in awhile because she deserves to be spoiled, right? Being an otaku can be an expensive hobby so an infrequent surprise can be thoughtful.
Let's not forget the number of issues involved with being female. Don't forget to compliment your otaku girlfriend! She may need that reminder that she's intelligent, beautiful, or reasonably sane. It is reassuring to know that someone thinks the world of us otaku girls regardless of what society or we, ourselves, believe. We all need a little sweetness from time to time to help us remember just how great we are.
3. More Variety
Dating an otaku actually gives you a lot of variety, especially when it comes to date ideas. Yes, you can do the norm: dinner, movie, etc., but don't forget to add some variety to your love live. You both can enjoy going to cosplay meet ups, go to anime conventions, or shop for figures and video games together. You can enjoy your hobbies in your dates without feeling judged!
Of course, that's not to say that everytime you go out it has to be themed around your otaku hobbies. It just means you have choices and more variety in your life so you both don't become bored when you go out. In addition, your otaku girlfriend may actually want to do something outside of anime once in awhile.
No Game nNo Life
4. Your Independence
As with every other relationship, don't forget to have some independence. When
you've found that you're becoming controlling like Yuno from Mirai Nikki or clingy like Sekai from School Days, you're too codependent. Yes, it's great to finally find someone who understands your ways and enjoys the things you do, but you both also need time to enjoy your own hobbies. How's she supposed to enjoy her yaoi when you're around? When you're together, you have to compromise, but a little time apart means you have your own lives and interests.
It's essential to have that time to yourself so that you both can enjoy your individual interests or even spend time with your own friends. Have your own identity outside of being a couple!
Mirai Nikki (Future Diary)
5. Forget the Stereotypes
When you date an otaku, forget the stereotypes. Yes, that is right. She may be an otaku, but that does not predetermine every single facet about her personality. Your otaku girlfriend may hate yaoi. She could surprise you by liking ecchi and why not? What if she likes going out to shop for designer clothes? Do not assume anything just because she is an otaku.
The key here is just to learn about each other and find out just what makes her tick. She loves anime, but how does that manifest into her lifestyle? Just don't make any assumptions and find out how you can enjoy your anime interests together. She may surprise you!
Saenai Heroine no Sodatekata
Having an otaku girlfriend is great for all the otaku boys out there looking for someone to share their interests with! It is wonderful to be able to share this part of yourself with someone who understands, unless you prefer to have a relationship such as the one in I Can't Understand What My Husband Is Saying.
Regardless, having a girlfriend can be difficult for some and downright confusing for others so hopefully this list will help you understand your otaku girlfriend some more. Dating doesn't have to be impossible. It just takes a little time and understanding!